Its over.

[DeadeyeDeb]

I have tried everything I can think of being romantic I went all out for valentines day bought her a new ring. Alot a flowers dinner cards shopping. All I got was a last min 3 piece chocolate box.

Prayers going out that this will work out with the hand of God in it.
As for a females point of view, take it for what it's worth.
You went all out for Valentine's day? What have you done the other 364 days during the last year?
And on the other foot, what has she done to work on it?

"All you got"----when you do something because you are doing it to get something out of it, you usually get nothing. When you do something for someone, especially someone you say uo love, expect nothing in return, do it for the sake of doing, not for what you'll get out of it. You will then get in return more than you ever thought and more that you think you deserve.
Are you only "romantic" on the days it is expected? The usual holidays?
Or do you surprise her with nice wonderful gifts (not necessarily monetary but from the heart), gifts of time, unexpected dates, time for yourselves with the little one taken care of by another adult? Things like that.
If the relationship has become predictable, it can become boring. And the every day things to keep the house running, the kiddo happy and his needs met, become the priority and the relationship takes a backseat. Whether you plan or see it happening or not.
Spontaniety is very much needed and required to keep the relationship fresh. And doing just for the sake of doing, to see the reaction is far more a deal maker that doing for something in return--the deal breaker.

[byrom1212]

Prayers going out that this will work out with the hand of God in it.
As for a females point of view, take it for what it's worth.
You went all out for Valentine's day? What have you done the other 364 days during the last year?
And on the other foot, what has she done to work on it?

"All you got"----when you do something because you are doing it to get something out of it, you usually get nothing. When you do something for someone, especially someone you say uo love, expect nothing in return, do it for the sake of doing, not for what you'll get out of it. You will then get in return more than you ever thought and more that you think you deserve.
Are you only "romantic" on the days it is expected? The usual holidays?
Or do you surprise her with nice wonderful gifts (not necessarily monetary but from the heart), gifts of time, unexpected dates, time for yourselves with the little one taken care of by another adult? Things like that.
If the relationship has become predictable, it can become boring. And the every day things to keep the house running, the kiddo happy and his needs met, become the priority and the relationship takes a backseat. Whether you plan or see it happening or not.
Spontaniety is very much needed and required to keep the relationship fresh. And doing just for the sake of doing, to see the reaction is far more a deal maker that doing for something in return--the deal breaker.

I didnt mean it like that I try to be romantic everyday that was just the day it really stood out that she was done trying. She does stuff for all her other friends all the time. I help her around the house everyday with out being asked. I didnt realy expect anything in return it just hurt knowing that she really didnt care and she used to do sweet things for me all the time little notes and other things.

[Horitexan]

Sorry to hear what you are going through. My prayers to you and your boy!

On a practical matter- get the very best attorney and file first! You may think it'll be amicable (and I pray it is!) but the reality is that they rarely are. And there are serious advantages to filing first. Its always best to have someone to look out for you and your son's interest- even if it ends up being amicable.