Prayers are sent.
Sadly, I must agree with Billy. By staying and "doing the right thing", you are only enabling her, she will ride that train as long as possible. When you do leave and she begins to realize what has happened and then the lifestyle changes that must take place in order for her to live on her own, she will change her tune. At that point, when she asks for help, needs house work, lawn care, vehicle repairs and such, it will become glaringly obvious to both of you. She will realize how much she needed you and you will see that you no longer need her.
I have seen it several times and I have had the same stance on each case. A few times, the guy gets suckered back and plays Mr. Nice Guy and continues to be taken advantage of but the ones who go in playing hardball, taking the offensive always say it was rough for a few months but they are very happy withe the outcome.
If your boys are 15 & 20, they are not from what I would call a broken home. You were together for far longer than most couples in this situation and I would think the boys know the score at this point. However, make sure they know they are not in any way at fault for what happens between the two of you.
Don't take the High Road, maybe not the very Lowest road either but get started living your life and let her get a taste of what she thinks she wants. If she wants out, then ask her nicely to move out, if she claims she can't support herself, then ask what she intends to do after you two are divorced to get by.
Good Luck and Prayers to your family.
Sadly, I must agree with Billy. By staying and "doing the right thing", you are only enabling her, she will ride that train as long as possible. When you do leave and she begins to realize what has happened and then the lifestyle changes that must take place in order for her to live on her own, she will change her tune. At that point, when she asks for help, needs house work, lawn care, vehicle repairs and such, it will become glaringly obvious to both of you. She will realize how much she needed you and you will see that you no longer need her.
I have seen it several times and I have had the same stance on each case. A few times, the guy gets suckered back and plays Mr. Nice Guy and continues to be taken advantage of but the ones who go in playing hardball, taking the offensive always say it was rough for a few months but they are very happy withe the outcome.
If your boys are 15 & 20, they are not from what I would call a broken home. You were together for far longer than most couples in this situation and I would think the boys know the score at this point. However, make sure they know they are not in any way at fault for what happens between the two of you.
Don't take the High Road, maybe not the very Lowest road either but get started living your life and let her get a taste of what she thinks she wants. If she wants out, then ask her nicely to move out, if she claims she can't support herself, then ask what she intends to do after you two are divorced to get by.
Good Luck and Prayers to your family.
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