I would like your opinions.

[WCB]

I was thinking of going to my Mothers grave site on Mothers day and maybe take a bucket of chicken. Mom passed away last Nov. so this is my first Mothers Day without her.
I had a family member say that she thought it was weird to have a picnic at the cemetary, I had mentioned it to my wife a couple of weeks ago and asked her tonight if she thought it was weird or not. She said "kinda".
That's cool. Everyone should have their own opinion.
Not that it will "change my mind", but I was hoping some of you could give your thoughts on this subject. Please be honest.

Thanks ahead of time...

[Dahmer]

I don't see anything weird or wrong with it. Its between you and your mother, and if it helps you then do it and forget about anyone who says its weird.

Its about honoring your mother and only you know how to do that best.

[Longstick]

honestly I dont think thers anything wrong with it WCB...lost my dad this past year and have caught myself at his burial with a chair and reminiscing..didnt have any chicken but Id wished I had

[Smart]

With all due respect to your mother and yourself, I would tend to side with your family member.....HOWEVER......we are not you and if you want to have a picnic with your mom then do it.

I prefer to just take flowers, reminisce and talk a little....that's hard enough to do without a mouth full of food.

That being said, my wife's aunt take a thermos full of coffee and a folding chair to the cemetary and drinks coffee with her parents on Easter.....

[qzilla]

Everyone is different. I would do whatever makes your healing process easy for you is the thing to do. I would not force your wife if she feels weird as she is going to heal differently than you are.

I am sure your Mom will appreciate whatever it is that you do, just like when you were a little kid and did not know any better. Parents have a special outlook on their kids, so I would not worry about that.

[doncom]

Mike,

Not long after my dad died, a couple of cousins and I went to the cemetary with a six pack of cold beer. We sat in the grass and told stories of fond memories and had a couple of cold ones. I think it was a great tribute. We did get some weird looks from folks driving by, but we weren't there for them.

I think if we all lived closer that we would do it every year.

My advice is to do what feels right to you.

[Cottonfish]

It's up to you to sort out what will make you feel close to your mom, a picnic may or may not be it. You won't know it till you try, and as long as it doesn't overtly offend any of your family members, it otta be OK. It's up to you to make the decision. Take care,

Stu

[jyoung]

Heck yeah you should do it... Plain and simple if it makes you feel better and if your mother would approve, nothing wrong with it. Have at it Bro, and just tell everyone else, its my party, just go if you want none of what I am bringing.

On a side note, when my mom goes, I will be sitting by her grave on mothers day, doing what we always like to do, sit and talk, over a margarita and some cheese dip!

[Bill]

In some cultures, it's an annual holiday.

http://www.public.iastate.edu/~rjsalvad/scmfaq/muertos.html

It's your Mom's day, do whatever you want.

[Cotton]

Our opinion matters not, follow your heart.

[Swat791]

It ain't weird.
I'd do it if that is what I wanted to.
When I go to my mom's site I go to remember her.
If we meet for mother's day and ate chicken, I would probably take a bucket with me and eat under the trees myself. That would be in memory of her.

I personally like visiting my mothers site alone, don't tell anyone I go and don't talk about the visit...so if I want to eat me a box of chicken when I'm there it's my buisness

[Firestopper]

WCB, spend mothers day how you wanna spend it. Do what makes sense to you.

[Burnadell]

I agree with most on this thread. Do what YOU want to do to celebrate your mother's life!

[Africanbowhunter]

The last worsds from myGrand Mothers Mouth was

" What I would Give for a hamburger and beer" then she died.

[Smart]

WCB.......let me change my post if you will. I have changed my opinion of siding with your family member of it being weird....Who am I to judge you? Like I said later....we are not you and if you want to have a picnic with your mom then do it.


Just don't talk with you mouth full of food. My grandmother would reach through her casket to pop me in the mouth if I talked with my mouth full......